Now that I've cleared out all the clutter, I've got more space to do the things that really matter. I've never really set serious goals before, but since I'm not really type A or type B, and I'm more in the middle, I tend to morph into whatever I surround myself with. Setting goals helps me have a little more structure and helps me morph into my type A side, which is actually the side I prefer. With that said, I don't even feel like my 2015 goals are really goals. I'm not starting anything new, I just want to do what I'm already doing with more passion and efficiency. I also don't think I'll ever really "arrive" with most of these things because they're all things that I want to keep doing better year after year. I consider my "goals" to actually function as a map for me. They remind me of where I'm going, and I can look back at it when I've lost my way and it will show me the path of purpose that want to intentionally keep myself on. However, I do have several themes on my map this year. They've mostly been birthed out of the things I did poorly last year, if you read my previous post you'll recognize that. This year I worked through Lara Casey's Powersheets and book to help me with planning this. I HIGHLY recommend both, and don't you think for a minute that what you have going on in your life isn't special enough to use these products. I felt that way for a while, but what you have on your plate at this very moment is what God has intentionally given you, and if you want to steward them with purpose and intention, the Powersheets and/or book will really help with that.
These themes cover all of the goals, or "places" on my map. I want all that I do this year to stem from these three things. I'll talk about them a little more as I dive into each place on my map. So without further ado, let's do this.
1. I want to walk extremely close with Jesus. I want to do whatever it takes to cultivate a fruitful relationship with Him. I want to love Him sacrificially, not conveniently. The verse I keep mediating on when it comes to this is Luke 9:23, "If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me." I'm coming after Jesus, and I'm denying myself of mindless social media scrolling before bed, so I can go to bed earlier, so I can deny myself of sleeping in, so I can say yes to being with him in the morning. I've been doing this for about 4 weeks now and I don't even want to sleep in anymore. Time with Jesus is so much more life giving.
2. I want to work hard to cultivate a thriving, joyful, Christ-centered marriage. I want to be Brian's biggest fan, biggest encourager, biggest prayer warrior, and best friend. I want to be a gracious, humble, and compassionate wife. My default is to be a prideful, self-absorbed, know-it-all. Thank you Lord for rescuing me from that and pointing out my sin. I'm doing a ton of holding my tongue lately, and choosing to say, "I was wrong" or "I don't know the answer." And I can't tell you how many times I've had to repeat "gracious, humble and compassionate" in my head. I want to try to make him laugh everyday.
3. I want to be an intentional, connected, and Spirit-led mother. I want to be a rock and a safe harbor for my boys to run to. I want to plan meaningful days together filled with fun and messes and grass stains and kisses. I want to be controlled by the Spirit in how I use my words. I keep meditating on Proverbs 15:1 when it comes to this, "a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Lord, help me to give the gentle answer, and set the emotional tone and spiritual culture for our home.
4. I want to be an active part of the Church family. In looking for a new church this year, it's easy to slip into being a consumer of the Church rather than a contributor. It felt really weird to be evaluating the child care, preaching, music, and programs offered and chose a church based off of that. All churches are messy and have cracks, which is what makes full of real people. I want to be part of the messes, and seeking to fill the cracks, and move from being a critical consumer to a compassionate contributor.
5. I want to nurture my doula soul. I know that God is calling me to be a doula someday, but I don't feel that this year is the season to pursue that. There's a time to chase your dreams, and there's a time to let them marinate, so they'll be more refined in the future. I'm letting it marinate this year. However, I want to stay tremendously interested in it and begin some self-study.
6. I want to steward the health God has given me well. I want to fuel my body with real, plant-based foods and not use food as a source of comfort. I can be a huge emotional eater, and I don't want to escape uncomfortable emotions through over-sugaring myself, which ultimately does nothing except make me unhealthier. I want to be physically active as part of my lifestyle, not as a "health kick." I'm running the capitol 10k in April and I can't wait!
7. I want to find a mentor and mentee. Out of obedience to Titus 2:3-5, I would love to have an older, wiser mentor that has walked before me in the places I'm going. They don't have to be perfect, but they at least have to be walking with Jesus, thriving in marriage, and leading their kids to follow Jesus. Likewise, I'm not an expert in anything but I'm not really a new follower of Jesus, or new wife, or new mom and I would love to mentor someone in these ways. If you think we would be a good fit for each other, either as a mentor or mentee, please message me!
8. I want to live on mission in Austin, and specifically our neighborhood. It was so hard to actually write this one down. I want to go beyond the philosophy of living on mission and actually get down to the nitty gritty and do it. I have a few ideas of some things I want to do to love my neighbors, but actually doing it is so hard for my introverted self.
9. I want to keep writing/blogging. I absolutely love writing here. I have a whole list of post ideas that I don't have a ton of time to write about, since I don't blog when I'm around my children so I can engage with them, and I'm around them just about 24/7. However, this is live giving for me and I hope it's meaningful to a few others too, so I'm going to keep at it. Ideally I'd like to post 1-2 times per week.
And that's my map of where I'm going. I'm glad I have it to look back on when I wander, because Lord knows I will! In my Powersheets, I have all of these broken down into items I can physically get up and take action on daily, which I may or may not blog about. Anyone interested?
How do you plan your year or your goals? Or do you not do it at all? Do you have a process or a theory you act on?