I was walking in my mom’s front yard with her and 18-month-old Salem one day in 2013, and my mom asked me, “Are you going to homeschool him?” “NO! What on earth would make you think I would do that?” “You’re always going off the beaten path,” she answered. I assured her that I would never be homeschooling. No way. Not me. I like naps. I have dreams, Homeschoolers are weird.
Ironically, I always said my mom never knew me very well (she died 5 years ago). But she was the first person to call this out in me and my mind keeps remembering that. The nudge on my heart to homeschool kept coming every school year. I considered a dual classroom/homeschool private school when my oldest was in kinder, but didn’t feel like it was time. Again, in first grade, the nudge came again. I don’t want to assume that homeschooling is all what it appears to be on Instagram, but every time I stumbled across a homeschooling account, it stirred something inside of me. That happened again just after the start of the school year. I came across the Wild and Free Co account, and I saw a post about an upcoming book releasing tomorrow by the founder. Typically, I’m pretty intentional and calculated when I buy books. Usually I’m familiar with the author and what the message is going to be about. But this time, I wasn’t at all. I just felt an urge to buy it, and I kinda thought after a week or so it would join my graveyard of partially read books that I don’t think I’ll actually pick up again.
But quite the opposite happened, actually. I couldn’t put it down. The minute I had a minute I wanted to read it. I read the whole thing cover to cover in probably 4 days. As I was reading the book, I realized I couldn’t ignore this stirring in my heart any longer. I needed to actually consider this open-mindedly. I realized that if this was God leading me to do this, the stirring wasn’t going to go away. I also realized that I’ve had a lot of the same values for raising my kids that homeschooling families have, but I never connected the dots that I could best manifest these values through homeschooling.
As I shut the book and prayed about it, and discussed a lot with my husband, we decided that we would definitely homeschool next year. At least for our oldest son. But since we had already made the decision to do it, I immediately began to see everything now through the lens of what would be possible or what would no longer be a problem if we were homeschooling.
And here’s where I get into my specific reasons for homeschooling. I could divide these into what I do like about homeschooling, what I don’t like about public school, but please know there ARE things I love about public school. Obviously, there are many things I appreciate about it which is why my middle son will stay in public school for now. I think each family should do what’s best for each child that year! This is just right for us right now. Seriously, sending all the good vibes to the families that love public school!
What I like about homeschool:
I have more time to foster a close relationship with my kids. Family togetherness is really important to me. Life is only getting busier as my kids get older. I sense that I’m in a really crucial period of time with my oldest, one that I want to capitalize on rather than drift through. I think time spent together is a big factor in the level of influence you have with your child. You definitely can do this without homeschooling, I just think it takes more intentionality!
Being able to do school when it works for us. I live in Texas. I was born and raised in Wisconsin. For me growing up, summer meant time to finally be outside, enjoying the weather without having to go anywhere. In Texas, summer means that it’s time to hibernate, it’s too hot to go anywhere unless you’re in water. This has always bothered me that our kids are in school during the best weather months of the year and out of school when we can’t go outside because of the heat. With homeschooling, that’ll no longer be a problem. I fully intend to at least do some subjects during the summer and ease up when we have beautiful days in other school months. And we’ll probably take school work outside!
Giving my son the opportunity to work at his own pace. Not trying to brag on my son, but the pace of public school is very slow for him and I think it is for many students. He could be a grade level ahead (at least) in math and reading if he were able to work at his own pace. I could also use that extra time to teach him additional things he’s interested in that wouldn’t an option in a classroom setting.
Nature. I think children spend far too much time disconnected from nature, which is vital to us in so many ways. Read How to Raise A Wild Child by Scott Sampson for more info on that. I see us being able to be outside for a long time, experiencing the world in ways we would never get to in a classroom. I’ve got a list of places I want us to go exploring together!
I’ve done a ton of reading up on how kids learn. Not how kids pass tests. Not how kids complete the assignments. But what environments actually turn on their inner drive to want to know something and discover it. This is probably the aspect of homeschooling I’m most excited about. I think kids learn because they want to and that every kid is a genius about something. I’m excited to reignite Salem’s imagination, curiosity, and provide a feast of learning opportunities as Charlotte Mason calls it. I want my kids to read because they get to, not because they need to color a box for every 5 minutes they read. Overall, I want to shift their mindset from “have to” to “get to”.
His spiritual development. I’m super excited to have more time to devote to all the things I’ve been wanting to teach him and be more intentional about. We’re doing Unseen Bible Study by Priscilla Shirer, reading about Children and the Supernatural by Jen Toledo, and more! Following Jesus is a lot like show and tell. You show them, they get curious, and then tell them how, why, and more. I want to provide more opportunities to do the show part.
What I’m Not A Fan of About Public School
You could read the above list and pretty much put everything in reverse, but there are a few other ones that don’t quite work that way. I’m really not a fan on the ample supply of low quality literature. My kids have read pretty quality books for assignments in class. However, I’ll never forget the first time I sent my son to school with $10 for the book fair, and he came home with a Minecraft graphic novel that was way over his head. The next time he came home with a Plants Vs. Zombies graphic novel. Then I decided we won’t be supporting the Scholastic Book Fair anymore. They also pretty regularly come home with books that I would have put the kibosh on if we were at the library. I know most parents are happy that their kids are reading at all, but not me. I have a standard, and while I’m not in control of them, I can choose what I’ll foster. I want the books my kids read to align with our values and cultivate things we want to see in our kids!
Video games are rampant, especially for boys. I’m not completely anti-video games, but I do strive to be pretty low-tech. I do have some values that video games negate. When certain video games are the talk of the playground, the lunch table, gym class, in line to music class, is a little too far for me. There are just so many other things I would rather see my kids do with their free time than play video games, and I don’t want them to be bombarded with video game talk everyday.
Along the same vein, I’m going to be as late of an adapter to kids having smart phones as I can be. I’m not at that stage yet, but I’ve heard from middle school parents in our school district that kids need phones to keep in touch with teachers and complete assignments by late middle school. I know most parents don’t want that, but wave their white flag in defeat anyway. Honestly, I don’t ever want my kid to need a phone for school work and keeping up with the Joneses is not my thing.
Living slowly. I know, it sounds ambiguous. But I feel like busy is glorified left and right. I feel like we’ve been duped into thinking busy=quality or busy=significant. Yesterday my son spent all of his after school time climbing trees, catching bugs, making “armadillo traps” (don’t worry, no armadillos were actually trapped!), perched on the table drawing sketches, and looking for shooting stars. We didn’t leave the house to go to two different practices or Spirit nights or anything. Play is the work of childhood. I think unstructured time for play is just as important as learning how to read and write and memorize math facts. I don’t want half of their time to be spent in the car going from practice to practice.
I could write more and more, but I’ll leave it at that for today! Overall, I’m really excited. I have my moments if I wonder if I’ve completely lost my mind for giving up my 7 hours of child free time, but I know that I want this more. I know that being on mission with him this way will be more satisfying than all the pedicures and clean rooms, and naps combined.
And because I figured someone would want to know what we’re doing approach-wise, so far I’ve fallen in love with Charlotte Mason’s pedagogy so that’s primarily what we’re doing, although I will probably pick up what I like from each approach!